A challenging fertility journey is a hard path to walk, and it’s made so much more difficult by the feelings of guilt, failure and even shame that can all too often creep in as time goes on. For those on this pathway it is so important to remember that you are not alone.
As a fertility coach I talk with my clients about how they can develop a mindset which better supports and nurtures them. One of the themes we may look at during this process, is how they can begin to become their own best friend.
Why is it so hard to give the same care and love to ourselves that we happily give to others? Maybe because we feel its selfish or self indulgent? But research tells us that the opposite is actually true. When we invest in loving kindness to ourselves we are actually better equipped to support others too.
In his book, The Mindful Path to Self-Compassion, Christopher Germer PhD, describes a study at the University of North Carolina, which found that a group of people who had done 7 weeks of loving-kindness meditation experienced more positive emotions like love, joy, gratitude and hope. The group also showed a steady gain in the number of positive emotions they experienced with each hour they meditated. Interestingly for those around them, this group also gained other resources such as problem solving and positive relationships with others.
If you would like to know more about the fertility coaching I offer, and if it feels right for you, visit my contact me page to find out how to get in touch.
Charlotte Green is a qualified fertility coach, with over 10 years of experience, in supporting clients on their journey to parenthood. She brings a wealth of experience, empathy and compassion to her transformative sessions which she provides via zoom. You can find out more about the support she offers here.
As a fertility coach I often talk to my clients about emotional self-care. And if I talk the talk I also have to walk the walk. So I practice what I preach. I use a whole range of techniques and practices to ensure I look after my own emotional wellbeing and spending time outside every day is one of my favourite ways to press the reset button.
There is something very centering about feeling the ground under my feet. Walking from the door each day for my permitted hour of outdoor exercise has become very precious in the past few weeks. Some days with one of the family some days without them, but always with my dog, this is precious time.
The Latin phrase solvitur ambulando means to solve by walking. This is something that really speaks to me. Taking a walk and becoming completely absorbed in observing the world around me takes me out of “doing” and into “being”. And when I am fully present observing each moment as it arrives, this creates space in my mind and a pause in the mental chatter. How do you take time out for your emotional wellbeing?
Charlotte Green is a qualified fertility coach, with over 10 years of experience, in supporting clients on their journey to parenthood. She brings a wealth of experience, empathy and compassion to her transformative sessions which she provides via zoom. You can find out more about the support she offers here.
If you have been trying to conceive for a while or have perhaps been through some fertility treatment which hasn’t worked, you might be wondering how to deal with infertility; the pressure, the stress, the roller coaster of emotions. Friends getting pregnant, family members asking questions, the body clock ticking. It can feel like a chemical cocktail of stress & anxiety that starts to impact on every part of your life. So you might be starting to ask yourself how can I deal with infertility in a more helpful way? How can I navigate the lack of control, the unpredictability the ongoing wearing down of this journey. Well you are in the right place.
You can navigate this journey differently…
I have supported clients on their pathway to parenthood for over 12 years and I bring a wealth of experience to help clients to better deal with infertility. I also have extensive training and professional insight into how best to support your emotional wellbeing on this journey.
It is absolutely within you to be able to navigate this journey in a different way, where you can feel more emotionally in control, where you can bring in a greater sense of calm, where you feel more resilient and where you can have a greater sense of agency & hopefulness on your pathway forward. How do I know you can do this, because I have supported hundreds of others just like you.
Supporting Your Mind & Your Fertility…
When I was training to be an acupuncturist over 13 years ago, one of the first things I learnt was how Traditional Medicine had recognised for over 2000 years, the complete interconnectedness of our emotional wellbeing and our physical health. So by tending to our emotional health we also bring far reaching benefits to our body. This is something that has only latterly been accepted by Western Medicine.
In traditional oriental medicine the organs of the body are viewed differently, with our organs being linked to different emotional attributes. These connections feel instinctively insightful, and as a fertility coach this is useful knowledge to share with clients. For example the heart is not only seen as a physical pump but also the seat of our emotions and central to our fertility. Traditional acupuncture even recognises an energetic connection between the heart and the uterus.
How I can help you to deal with infertility…
So when you are trying to deal with infertility and are looking at your fertility health, taking time to look after your emotional wellbeing is so important, and that’s where my work as a fertility coach comes in. I support my clients to understand more about their emotional wellbeing, and provide a nurturing space to look at the emotional landscape of their lives, how to work with their emotions as opposed to feeling overwhelmed by them, and how they can increase their resilience and emotional wellbeing, step by step, every day. Striving for perfection is draining. Making time to do things that bring calmness, a little joy and a sense of peace are key.
My approach not only helps you to feel better, it also supports the connection between your mind and body, and this is never more important than when trying to conceive. If you would like to stay in touch and receive free insights, tips and special offers please sign up to my newsletter
Charlotte Green is a qualified fertility coach, with over 12 years of experience, in supporting clients on their journey to parenthood. She brings a wealth of experience, empathy and compassion to her transformative sessions which she provides via zoom. If you are trying to deal with infertility she can help. You can find out more about the support she offers here.
I recently attended a fascinating online seminar that talked about the healing power of compassion – compassion for ourselves and compassion for others. Researcher Chris Germer described compassion as a fundamental resource for alleviating suffering, and explained how through care and connection, it helps to regulate our emotional responses.
A moment of self-compassion can change your entire day. A string of such moments can change the course of your life
Chris Germer
This is something I can relate to, both in myself, and in my clients. One simple way to bring compassion in, when facing the challenges of our everyday life is simply to ask “what would I say to a dear friend in this situation?” or “what do I need to best nurture and support myself in this moment?”
Clients often describe fertility coaching with me as deeply transformative, and one of the themes at the heart of this work is compassion and the meaningful connection this brings. To find out more about the fertility coaching I offer you can read more here.
