Disconnection

D I S C O N N E C T I O N… from friends, from family, from work colleagues… this can be a big one and often shows up when going through infertility.  The feeling of disconnection often has its roots in situations where personal fertility struggles are poorly acknowledged, misunderstood, discounted or even ignored. Unsurprisingly this creates a sense of being increasingly unseen.  This in turn can then feed an ongoing cycle of disillusionment which only serves to add fuel to the feeling of disconnection… and so we may find ourselves retreating even further. And so the cycle continues.

When clients get in touch with me, this cycle is often well established and there can be a sense of real despair at the seemingly impossible task of turning things around. Clients often intuitively sense that safe, gentle reconnection can offer a pathway to some healing, but they are often at a loss as to where to begin.  That’s where I come in.

Often we start by breaking things down…

Can you describe how you would like things to look in a month or twos time? Let’s get down to specifics who, where, when..

How can we make some easy wins? Are there some trusted people who feel like a really safe place to start? How would you do that? What would that look like for you? These small steps can rebuild a little confidence and spur you on.

Are there some gatekeepers, trusted individuals within your circle who do get it and can help you to educate others and so extend out your circle of reconnection further?

Are some boundaries needed? Perhaps an acknowledgement that there may be times in the rollercoaster monthly cycle when reconnection is harder, or perhaps some people who you may actually be better off without?

 Would it be ok to show a little vulnerability to allow trusted others to gain more insight into the suffering you are facing?

 Are you able to voice some of your needs within your relationships with others, in a way that feels OK for you?

As your coach I’m here every step of the way, to support you as the process unfolds, and share in the richness that can come from safely reconnecting with others in a way that feels absolutely right for you.

Hello

It’s been a while, and I notice a few new faces following me so felt it was time to reintroduce myself.

I’m Charlotte, a certified Wellbeing Coach and Freedom Fertility Formula Specialist. I am also a meditation and mindfulness teacher and was previously a specialist fertility acupuncturist.

Connecting via Zoom with clients from all over the world, I specialise in supporting the emotional wellbeing of those who are on a fertility journey.
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I’ve been studying, working with clients and honing my craft for over 14 years and I bring a rich blend of all my learning to my work.
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Every session with me is different and I work creatively to hold a safe space for sharing, connection and personal exploration and growth.
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We each of us hold the inner wisdom and self knowledge to navigate lifes big challenges in a way that it is absolutely right for us. But we can so easily loose sight of this when feeling under pressure and this disconnect can leave us feeling vulnerable, isolated and emotionally lost.
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In our sessions together I nurture a calm space for reconnection. We explore what matters to you, what it is that you need, and how you can start to reshape things in a way that better serves and supports you.
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This process is powerful and brings fresh insights and awareness, renewed clarity and an increased sense of calmness and confidence when navigating the way ahead.

Charlotte Green is a certified Wellbeing Coach and a specialist fertility coach, with over 10 years of experience, in supporting clients on their journey to parenthood. She brings a wealth of experience, empathy and compassion to her transformative sessions which she provides via zoom. You can find out more about the support she offers here.

Getting Started with Fertility Coaching

Firstly a huge, heartfelt thank you to all my lovely clients who choose to work with me during what can be a very tender and challenging time of life. I am inspired by your courage and commitment to our work together, and am so motivated to bring the very best of me and what I have to offer, to our time together.

Over the coming weeks I have a flurry of new people starting to work with me. If you are one of those, I am as eager as you are to get started, and see what this empowering process will bring. If you have been following me for a while or are wondering about starting to work with me, please feel free to get in touch to schedule in a 20 minute tune-in.

In this free and friendly call we can explore what you feel you need, what I have to offer and if my approach feels right for you. This is also a chance to get to know me a little, and gain a real sense of what it’s like to work with me.

Sounds interesting? Please feel free to get in touch. I do currently have a waiting list, but I am able to book new clients into my diary from the beginning of May onwards.

Charlotte Green is a qualified fertility coach in the UK, with over 10 years of experience, in supporting clients on their journey to parenthood. She brings a wealth of experience, empathy and compassion to her transformative sessions which she provides via zoom. You can find out more about the support she offers here.

Can Fertility Coaching Improve Your Health?

As a fertility coach with a focus on emotional health & wellbeing, I think about this statement everyday, and it is a guiding principle in the work I do. If you feel you would benefit from working through the thoughts, beliefs and emotions that surround your fertility journey, in a safe and supportive space, please do get in touch.

Have you told your Story?

This post carries on a theme I began yesterday and is inspired by the stories of my fertility clients…. Some stories we may never want to share, and that feels right. But others can feel like an unbearable burden to carry on our own.

Sharing our story with a trusted other can bring huge unburdening and the opportunity to look at our life afresh and with new perspective.

When we look at our story through another’s eyes we are often able to see ourselves in a kinder light. Struggles through adversity so familiar to us that we now take for granted, can look like the heroic acts of endurance that they actually are, when seen through an observer’s eyes.

The thought of sharing our story can feel daunting, even self-indulgent but it can actually be a gift not only to ourselves but others too. The process can give us clarity and courage and allow us to see ourselves within the world. Sharing with others can also give them hope, comfort and the inspiration to keep going.

Charlotte Green is a qualified fertility coach in the UK, with over 10 years of experience, in supporting clients on their journey to parenthood. She brings a wealth of experience, empathy and compassion to her transformative sessions which she provides via zoom. You can find out more about the support she offers here.

Fertility Coaching – Start by telling your Story


During their first session of fertility coaching, my clients have the opportunity to tell their story. It sounds very simple, but it can have huge therapeutic benefits. To feel truly heard, in a supportive and safe environment is healing in itself. For me personally hearing these courageous accounts has felt a real privilege over the years.

Sharing our painful and difficult stories, can bring up those emotions we hold close.. grief, sadness, anger, shame… But in a supportive and compassionate space making these often hidden experiences more visible, can help clients validate what they’ve been through and deepen their emotional insight and understanding. This can often be the first step to finding renewed strength, deep healing and the resilience to move forward.

Charlotte Green is a qualified fertility coach in the UK, with over 10 years of experience, in supporting clients on their journey to parenthood. She brings a wealth of experience, empathy and compassion to her transformative sessions which she provides via zoom. You can find out more about the support she offers here.

Introducing the other Member of my Team

So for a little Friday fun, here is my dog Silas, saying hello.

Silas is a Zen dog. He doesn’t overthink about the past or worry about what may lay ahead in the future. Instead he takes joy in each moment, as it arrives, just as it is. Maybe we could all be more like Silas…. if only.

Charlotte Green is a qualified fertility coach, with over 10 years of experience, in supporting clients on their journey to parenthood. She works with clients who are trying to conceive naturally, and also those going through assisted treatments such as IVF. She brings a wealth of experience, empathy and compassion to her transformative sessions which she provides via zoom. You can find out more about the support she offers here.

With Our Minds we Make Our World


Many women and couples I see in my work as a fertility coach, are going through fertility struggles and want to change their mindset and gain some emotional control over feelings of overwhelm.

What we are today comes from our thoughts of yesterday, and our present thoughts build our life of tomorrow: Our life is the creation of our mind. With our thoughts we make the world. – Buddha

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I find these words from the Buddha deeply profound and empowering. Over many years I have learnt that in a world where we have very little control over anything, it is possible to acknowledge, allow and learn to work with challenging and negative thoughts, using mindfulness and meditation practice and supportive coaching.

And whilst our circumstances may not change for the moment, once we can stop resisting the negative and difficult thoughts and are able to accept them a little, for what they are… just passing thoughts… they often quietly subside.

Charlotte Green is a qualified fertility coach, with over 10 years of experience, in supporting clients on their journey to parenthood. She brings a wealth of experience, empathy and compassion to her transformative sessions which she provides via zoom. You can find out more about the support she offers here.

You Are Not Alone

“You are not alone”…. This is one of my close friends favourite phrases.

As human beings we have a basic need to connect with others. But perhaps when we need this connection most, during times of distress and suffering, we can become locked in our own heads, thoughts circling and spiralling towards our worst fears. With this comes loss of perspective and loneliness, and it can feel hard to find a way out.

Albert Einstein described our sense of being separate as a delusion and a prison. And even during these days of lockdown, evidence of our interconnectedness is everywhere.

One mindfulness exercise I like which reminds me of connection involves watching the kettle boil when making a cup of tea. It doesn’t take more than a minute or two to boil a kettle but during that time I think about all the people involved in the steps to get my cup of tea to me, the tea growers and pickers, the tea bag makers, the water suppliers, the people that made the raw materials for my kettle, the electricity workers, the potters who made my cup …the list is huge, and that’s just for one very small routine in my day. And all the people in this huge web of connectedness have their own stuff going on too, their worries, fears and hopes just like us.

Recognising this reality can be transforming. When we lift our heads from our own difficulties, if only for a few minutes, and see the interconnectedness all around us, something very special happens… we begin to see ourselves as part of something much bigger and we can feel a little lighter, a little more able to cope and that’s soothing for the soul.

Charlotte Green is a qualified fertility coach, with over 10 years of experience, in supporting clients on their journey to parenthood. She brings a wealth of experience, empathy and compassion to her transformative sessions which she provides via zoom. You can find out more about the support she offers here.

Becoming your own best friend…

A challenging fertility journey is a hard path to walk, and it’s made so much more difficult by the feelings of guilt, failure and even shame that can all too often creep in as time goes on. For those on this pathway it is so important to remember that you are not alone.

As a fertility coach I talk with my clients about how they can develop a mindset which better supports and nurtures them. One of the themes we may look at during this process, is how they can begin to become their own best friend.

Why is it so hard to give the same care and love to ourselves that we happily give to others? Maybe because we feel its selfish or self indulgent? But research tells us that the opposite is actually true. When we invest in loving kindness to ourselves we are actually better equipped to support others too.

In his book, The Mindful Path to Self-Compassion, Christopher Germer PhD, describes a study at the University of North Carolina, which found that a group of people who had done 7 weeks of loving-kindness meditation experienced more positive emotions like love, joy, gratitude and hope. The group also showed a steady gain in the number of positive emotions they experienced with each hour they meditated. Interestingly for those around them, this group also gained other resources such as problem solving and positive relationships with others.

If you would like to know more about the fertility coaching I offer, and if it feels right for you, visit my contact me page to find out how to get in touch.

Charlotte Green is a qualified fertility coach, with over 10 years of experience, in supporting clients on their journey to parenthood. She brings a wealth of experience, empathy and compassion to her transformative sessions which she provides via zoom. You can find out more about the support she offers here.

The Life of a Fertility Coach involves emotional self-care too..

As a fertility coach I often talk to my clients about emotional self-care. And if I talk the talk I also have to walk the walk. So I practice what I preach. I use a whole range of techniques and practices to ensure I look after my own emotional wellbeing and spending time outside every day is one of my favourite ways to press the reset button.

There is something very centering about feeling the ground under my feet. Walking from the door each day for my permitted hour of outdoor exercise has become very precious in the past few weeks. Some days with one of the family some days without them, but always with my dog, this is precious time.

The Latin phrase solvitur ambulando means to solve by walking. This is something that really speaks to me. Taking a walk and becoming completely absorbed in observing the world around me takes me out of “doing” and into “being”. And when I am fully present observing each moment as it arrives, this creates space in my mind and a pause in the mental chatter. How do you take time out for your emotional wellbeing?

Charlotte Green is a qualified fertility coach, with over 10 years of experience, in supporting clients on their journey to parenthood. She brings a wealth of experience, empathy and compassion to her transformative sessions which she provides via zoom. You can find out more about the support she offers here.

Transformative Fertility Coaching

When I was training to be an acupuncturist over 10 years ago, one of the first things I learnt was how Traditional Medicine had recognised for over 2000 years, the complete interconnectedness of our emotional wellbeing and our physical health. So by tending to our emotional health we also bring far reaching benefits to our body. This is something that has only latterly been accepted by Western Medicine.

In traditional oriental medicine the organs of the body are viewed differently, with our organs being linked to different emotional attributes. These connections feel instinctively insightful, and as a fertility coach this is useful knowledge to share with clients. For example the heart is not only seen as a physical pump but also the seat of our emotions and central to our fertility. Traditional acupuncture even recognises an energetic connection between the heart and the uterus.

So when looking at your fertility health, taking time to look after your emotional wellbeing is so important, and that’s where my work as a fertility coach comes in. I support my clients to understand more about their emotional wellbeing, and provide a nurturing space to look at the emotional landscape of their lives, how to work with their emotions as opposed to feeling overwhelmed by them, and how they can increase their resilience and emotional wellbeing, step by step, every day. Striving for perfection is draining. Making time to do things that bring calmness, a little joy and a sense of peace are key.

Charlotte Green is a qualified fertility coach, with over 10 years of experience, in supporting clients on their journey to parenthood. She brings a wealth of experience, empathy and compassion to her transformative sessions which she provides via zoom. You can find out more about the support she offers here.