A challenging fertility journey is a hard path to walk, and it’s made so much more difficult by the feelings of guilt, failure and even shame that can all too often creep in as time goes on. For those on this pathway it is so important to remember that you are not alone.
As a fertility coach I talk with my clients about how they can develop a mindset which better supports and nurtures them. One of the themes we may look at during this process, is how they can begin to become their own best friend.
Why is it so hard to give the same care and love to ourselves that we happily give to others? Maybe because we feel its selfish or self indulgent? But research tells us that the opposite is actually true. When we invest in loving kindness to ourselves we are actually better equipped to support others too.
In his book, The Mindful Path to Self-Compassion, Christopher Germer PhD, describes a study at the University of North Carolina, which found that a group of people who had done 7 weeks of loving-kindness meditation experienced more positive emotions like love, joy, gratitude and hope. The group also showed a steady gain in the number of positive emotions they experienced with each hour they meditated. Interestingly for those around them, this group also gained other resources such as problem solving and positive relationships with others.
Charlotte Green is a qualified fertility coach, with over 10 years of experience, in supporting clients on their journey to parenthood. She brings a wealth of experience, empathy and compassion to her transformative sessions which she provides via zoom. You can find out more about the support she offers here.